"Pregnancy can be such an exciting time, but with the great number of recognized miscarriages that occur, it is beneficial to be informed about miscar

*this post is long, I know. But there is a cute little video at the end of it!!

Loving this quote;

"The loss of a baby — no matter how early in pregnancy — is real, and so is the grief that comes with it.I went to visit my good friends yesterday. To tell one of them good bye, laugh with all of them, and to congratulate the other on the birth of her sweet little girl, Sadjdah. These girls are my other sisters. It was the hardest thing to say good bye to M. She is leaving for Pakistan to marry a man She does not love, not knowing when she will return to her family. To her sweet niece Sadjdah, My other friend, Manar, asked me if I was pregnant.. I told her no and let her know that I had miscarried. She showed so much sympathy and it warmed my heart. Manar has experienced 2 miscarriages and a loss of a 23 day old. I returned the sympathy learning of her losses, and told myself that mine was nothing. Visiting with her, helped me realize what I have been told many times, and have had a very hard time believing, You cannot compare trials, burdens, losses, in life. God knows what we can handle. He knows our trials before we do, and everything in life happens for a reason and we don't ever know why. I cannot imagine losing a child that I have held, kissed, looked into their eyes.. But to compare losses is just something you can't do. I know people who have miscarried and also some that have lost their happy healthy children. When I was about 12 I attended a babies funeral that I used to watch after. I will never forget the feeling, the look in the mothers eyes, the sadness, the child laying helpless, but mostly the love and sympathy that others were giving her the mother, and how many people loved this baby and her family. How hard it would be to go through that. I have read many, many articles and church talks on miscarriages. All have said that though it is hard to have lost a baby after birth, it is also hard to lose one prier to birth. And all of them have said to not compare others trials and losses to your own. We all grieve in different ways. We all heal in different ways. We all can handle different amounts of pain. God watches us all, and he gives us what He knows we can handle. Nothing we cannot get through. Seeing my "niece" Sajdah was so wonderful. What a precious little girl. I know Mike and I were not trying to get pregnant, it was a lot sooner than we would have planned, but I think that it was Heavenly Fathers way of letting us know that we are ready when we want one. I had thought about getting pregnant many times. The thought was bouncing around in the back of my crazy mind, and I believe that God was just helping me more fully understand, that when the time comes for me to sport that baby belly, I will be able to. And when That baby is born, Mike and I will be wonderful parents. The miscarriage has definitely tested our marriage, and strengthened it a lot. So I thank my baby. That sweet spirit that made the decision to come to this earth only to be taken away so quickly, so that I may be at peace. So that I can learn how to be understanding and patient. And so that Mike and I now know, that we will make good parents. What a lesson my baby has taught me. What a wonderful spirit to make that decision. To be so selfless, to love Michael and I so much. I hope that every other Mom who has experienced a loss can find peace, and that they will know that it was not their fault. They will see their child again. Sometimes it is hard to understand that others, even family sometimes, don't understand what you are going through when you miscarry. I have learned not to be hurt by the lack of sympathy I receive or not receive from people. Maybe they don't know what to say, or how to act. Maybe they have been hurt in some way and are having a hard time not comparing their life to yours. And maybe, it is very likely, that they just don't understand. So now that I have gone on forever and ever, I actually have a question for you, CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHY MY TUMMY IS STILL HURTING AND BIG?? just wondering... because it's annoying. Thanks!

Now I will leave you with some quotes I have come across recently searching for an answer to my belly problem. If you happen across this blog and are going through the pain of losing a "baby" (Yes, no matter how many days it has been, from the moment you get pregnant, you are a Mommy. You have a baby. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise) maybe you can find some comfort from this post. I have just by writing it. Whoever you are, where ever you are, I pray for you

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I'm so sorry about your baby. I know exactly what u mean about people asking, but just think about the fact that at least they're bothered- I've been more put out when people have avoided me or have chatted away as if nothing has happened. Its made me want to scream out "Don't u know my baby has died?" I am getting stronger, and u will too.,just give yourself time to mourn.

"You feel as if all your future dreams have been cruelly stolen."

"My tummy hasn't returned to normal either and I'm always resting my hands on my little bump as if it's still there."

"It's the most difficult thing to accept that ur baby has gone, u can't put a time limit on how u feel."

"Hi ive just had a miscarriage on sunday, i was 7 weeks and although i wasnt as far gone as you both were i know what you are both going through its an awful time. my midwife told me that i would be up and down for a few weeks because when you miscarry your hormone levels keep dropping and they take a while to get back to normal so 1 day you might feel ok and the next you will be a on the floor crying which i am experiencing now, unfortunatly you have no control over that part its the prossess your body has to go through. I'm getting more upset when people ask me if i'm ok and that it wasnt mean to be that is not helping i feel like saying "yes im bloody fantastic i'm on top of the world. I know they are only trying to be sympathetic but its not helping i wish they wouldnt say anything . i am a strong believer that things happen for a reason and i feel that it was gods way of telling me things wernt right and i wasnt meant to have that baby for a reason what that reason is i will never know but maybe there was something really wrong the baby , in time i will accept it, although i'm finding it hard right now ,you do have to move on in the end. Men will never understand fully what a women has to go through in times like this to them its just one of those things but to a women it is so much more. Just remember you are never alone."

Hope is the thing with feathers-

That perches in the soul- And sings the song without the words- And never stops..at all-

"i lost a lot of blood and was given morphene injections for the pain of the contractions. I can still feel that little "ball" inside, at the bottom of my tummy, it's painful and annoying."

It is true. the contractions are awful. I was in so much pain. Really truly, it is like you are giving birth. If you have not experienced it for yourself, you wouldn't understand, But it is. Everyone I know who has had one has told me it is, and my Dr. told me it is. The only thing is, is it is a lot harder. Because with a birth, you get your baby, and with a miscarriage you get the ultra sounds,and the excitement only to have it taken away. then you are left with the thousands of dollars of bills, and no baby to help you and your husband get through it. Nothing, Just pain, suffering, ultra sound memories, and bills.

I am a girl, so obviously after spending all day with Sajda, I am totally itching for a baby, haha. Here is a super cute Pampers video. Watch it and love it. If you have just had a miscarriage, it might be painful to watch. To me, it reminds me of what i will have when it is time. Have a good weekend ya'll. Be kind to everyone, you don't know what others are going through.